Lots of Hate for Julia Stephenson on Being Too Beautiful to be Faithful

julia-stephensonIn case you’re not fully aware, the Internet is filled with people willing to express their opinion. In the case of Julia Stephenson that opinion is almost universally negative. Stephenson wrote an article for the Daily Mail in which she lamented her physical attractiveness led to unfaithfulness and the end of her marriage.

As you can well imagine, the comments generally lashed out at her for not being particularly attractive and for laying the blame of her failed marriage on her beauty rather than the choices she made.

I decided I’d read her original article and get a feel for what she wrote. Not surprisingly the headline summations don’t really tell the real story. Yes, Stephenson blames her blossoming and the attentions of handsome men for the end of her marriage but she also accepts responsibility for it.

What’s interesting to me is the complete lack of objective reality that most of those commenting display. Someone who is good-looking is absolutely going to have more temptations to be unfaithful than someone who is less attractive and those temptations will be with people, well, more tempting.

I’d recommend reading Stephenson’s original article all the way through for it is not nearly as shallow or delusional as the headlines suggest. However, what I’d like to address is something called the Moralistic Fallacy. This fallacy is behind much of the criticism of Stephenson.

The idea is:

It is wrong to leave your spouse because someone else more attractive is suddenly available. Therefore it does not happen.

The only reason Stephenson left her husband is because she chose to do so. Her blossoming, gaining confidence, and having men of a social station and appearance that never before looked at her giving her attention had no bearing on her choice to end her marriage and engage in a series of short-term relationships.

This is simply people pretending that reality does not exist because reality is unpleasant. Certainly Stephenson chose to end her relationship and bears the responsibility for doing so, which she admits in her article. But it is clear that when suddenly presented with opportunities not available earlier, we all face difficult temptations. Certainly some resist, many do not.

I’m saying it’s absolute nonsense to pretend that changing circumstances do not influence behavior.

Stephenson left her husband for several reasons. One of which is that she had new opportunities available to her that she did not when she married him. It is not the only reason, of course. But it is certainly one of them and to pretend otherwise is to engage in a Moralistic Fallacy.

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5 thoughts on “Lots of Hate for Julia Stephenson on Being Too Beautiful to be Faithful

  1. What no one knows is that women that are too good-looking are more prone to being victims of domestic violence because men always assume they will cheat and abandon them. Men want a woman whom they can easily keep all to themselves.

    • Hi, LR.

      Thank you for the comment. I think you are making generalizations about men that are unfair. I’m also not sure what your comment has to do with the topic of the post.


      • This article is missing the point. Ironic considering it claims those who think this woman is wrong are “denying reality”.
        No one is saying that being attracted won’t give you more temptations to seek other opportunities. And if you see human beings as “opportunities” that’s a delusion in itself. What are they opportunities for? Money? Inflating your own ego?
        What people are saying is that temptations don’t belong solely to attractive people. It’s common sense that people sometimes feel tempted to cheat on their partners or leave them for others. Even if that only happened to, or happens more likely, to attractive people it doesn’t make being unfaithful okay.
        This woman is not “brave” as other media sites speed to say, and people who think this way don’t deserve a pat on the back for it, nor are they awakened to some hard truth that is too unbearable for less attractive people. It’s simple: unfaithful is unfaithful and shallow is shallow. And not only does this woman clearly exhibit those behaviors, but she tries to make it seem like everyone thinks the same way. That’s the true fallacy at work here.

        • You say: “No one is saying that being attracted won’t give you more temptations to seek other opportunities.” This is exactly what people were saying and why I wrote the article.

          You wrote: “This woman is not “brave” as other media sites speed to say.” This is exactly the opposite of the reaction I was reading. Condemnation of her was almost universal throughout comments and articles.

          My point was simple and my poll question sums it up. She was absolutely wrong and circumstances are a factor. You seem to have misunderstood my point entirely.

  2. Wtf no one says oportunities don’t show up if you’re hot.
    Everyone bashed her for being a fucking WHORE and not saying “NO!”.

    Are you kidding me??
    I don’t believe this. FUCK!

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