Get all the ladies, be an Alpha Male, shrug off male loneliness, follow these steps. Don’t listen to all those crazy influencers, you’re gonna learn the real secret to being an Alpha Male right here, right now.

One of the disturbing trends racing through our nation is warped influencers telling young men how to get a lady, how to be an Alpha Male. It’s turning perfectly normal and reasonable young men into disturbed and, frankly, terrifying people. I offer a solution.

The Steps to Being an Alpha Male

The steps to being an Alpha Male aren’t all that complicated. I only have to look at my friends to see married men, men with children, men with happy families, to see what it takes to be an Alpha Male. And, of course, I compare them to myself and my relative lack of success with the ladies. What are they doing that I’m not?

Some of them are taller than me, some of them are fitter, but some of them are shorter, some of them are a bit overweight, some of them have more hair, some less. The traits of an Alpha Male don’t have nearly as much to do with appearance as you might imagine, at least in regards to the parts of appearance you can’t change. So, what is it?

Step One: Improve Yourself

Learn how to fix things; plumbing, carpentry, household repair. Learn how to cook, it’s not that hard and darned useful even if you don’t have a date. Earn a degree. Learn a trade. Get a job. Work hard. Get a promotion. Get in shape. Read; Jane Austen, biographies, mysteries, books on body language and unspoken communication, heck even Tom Liberman, he’s not half bad. Become literate so you can talk about a variety of topics. Learn some card tricks. Learn impressions. Learn something fun you can do at events. Take a driving class so you’re a good driver.

Get some clothes that fit and pay for a good haircut. Get some decent shoes. Dental hygiene. Showers. Trim your nails. Clean your place, wash your sheets and pillowcases, make your bed. Buy some art for the walls. Buy some glasses, dishes, and flatware.

Practice listening to people. Next time you’re in a conversation and somebody says something, don’t immediately relate an anecdote about you, bite your tongue and let other people talk. When you do talk, be passionate about the things that you’re passionate about. If it’s a video game, go for it. If it’s about model trains, don’t hesitate. Be passionate.

Step Two: Meeting Women

This step is fairly easy. Get out there. You’re not going to meet a woman sitting at home, playing on the computer, and reading advice on how to get women. You need to get out there. So, how do you do that?

Go out to dinner and sit at the bar. Find a group of people who do things and join them. Go to museums, go to the ballgame, go to the park, go hiking, walk around the neighborhood.

Step Three: The Best Pickup Line

Hi. That’s it. Now you know.

Step Four: Get a Date

Have a plan. Not, hey, wanna go out sometime. Go with; hey, there’s a new restaurant I’ve been wanting to try. Hey, I’ve got tickets to the ballgame. Hey, there’s wine tour. There’s that exhibit. There’s that lecture.

Be respectful to the people with whom you interact. The waiter, the parking lot attendant, the front door person, everyone. One of them probably has a female friend who is looking for a guy like you.

Step Five: Have a Future

Have a plan for your future. Have a plan to support your wife in whatever she wants to be, housewife or business mogul. Love your kids if they come along. Be a great dad. Take them places. Teach them things. Love them. Stand up for them and stand up for yourself.

Conclusion

An Alpha Male is married or in a committed relationship, he’s got a great family, he loves his wife. Change your image of what an Alpha Male is and, with enough self-improvement, you’ll be one yourself.

Tom Liberman